The Secret Lives Of Moms

Last week Oprah did a show called "The Secret Lives Of Moms." The show featured several moms including two friends, Trisha Ashworth and Amy Noble, who have written several books. If you missed it, the show was filled with crazy stories about the things woman have done in the name of Motherhood. The truth is that I was in tears within the first three minutes!

Why would a normally sane woman, meaning I usually appear to be sane, start crying during such a funny episode? Well, to be honest, I realized that not only are my expectations for myself way overblown, but that other women have the same expectations! The feeling of relief was overwhelming. For months I have felt like a failure. Not only did I feel the need to be the perfect mother, but also the perfect "wife".

I am not writing this because I need a pep-talk. I now accept that the 1950's tv housewife probably did not exist. If she did, she must have been on some SERIOUS speed and cocktails! I am writing this because there are so many of us that are going through the same thing, but we still feel the need to fake it. I also think that it is important for those of you who are not moms (yet) have a far better concept of motherhood than I did. Being told that it is hard and you sacrifice a lot does not really cut it as far as information is concerned. Lack of information only sets us up to feel we have failed.

I know I do not blog often and I also tend to avoid actually talking about motherhood, maybe you now understand why, but I am going to try to change that. I do not know if what I write will help anyone else, but maybe it will make me feel a little more sane. I will do my best not to "fake it" and be honest about all the ups and downs. I want to tell the truth about motherhood. The good, the bad, and the ugly.